Development of healthy relationships

Developmentof healthyrelationships

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Ashumanbeingsdevelopthrough teenage to adolescence,theydevelopa feelingof desiretowards particularpeople.Thefeelingoccursin bothyoungmenandwomen.During thistime,a lotof cautionis necessaryto theweakemotionalintelligencethatyoungpeoplehave.Thispaperanalyzes, howindividualscan develophealthyrelationshipsthrough exploringthevariousissues,involverelationshipsat thisperiod.Itanalyzesthetheoriesof intimacy,love,attraction,developmentof healthyinterpersonal developmentandthedevelopmentof intimaterelationshipacross gender.

Loveis an umbrellathat bringstogetherallsortsof feelings,behaviorsattitudeandsometimeshavesomethingsin common.Severaltheoriesare usedto explainthephenomenaof thetriangulartheoryof lovedevelopedby Sternberg andthecolorsof lovetheorydevelopedby Lee in 1977 (Underwood &amp Rosen, 2011).

Severalscholarshavetouchedtheareasof attraction,andtheycomeup with differentexplanationsas to whypeoplegetattractedto one another.One underlying factoris thatpeoplegetattractedto someone orsomething iftheyfindsomething of intereston them. Kolberg, Levinger, andSnoek are someof thescholarswhohaveshedmorelighton theissue(Prager,2011).

Intimacyis a naturalfeelingthatinvolvesa psychologicalassociationbetween individuals.Thefeelingsare sodeepsuchthattheyaffectone party.In orderto develophealthyhumanrelationshipsacross gender,theaspectsmentionedabovemust be handledwith care.Itis necessaryto understandtheir developmentthroughout thehumanlifespan. Therationalebehind thisis thatpeoplehavedifferentdesiresin thevariousagebrackets(Prager,2011).Literaturereview

Somepeopletakethenotionof loveas a phenomenonthat is not easyto understand.However,others havetriedto usedifferentmethodsto explainwhatloveis andhowitdevelops.One of thesetheoriesis thetriangulartheoryof love.Themethodwasdevelopedby Sternberg andhas three pillarscommitment,intimacy,andpassion.Commitmentis theresponsibilityto beattachedto thepersonforeither short term or long-termgains.Intimacyis a resultof thenaturalpleasuresof thefleshthat one can getfrom anotherperson.Intimacyis thefeelingof attachmenttowards anotherperson.Thesethree elementswereusedby Sternberg to explainlove(Underwood &amp Rosen, 2011).

JohnLee describes loveas a wheelthat containsthree colors.There are three primarycolors.From thisperspective,Lee deducesthatthere are three typesof primaryloveEros, Ludos andstorge.Eros is thelovefora particularperson.Ludosis thegeneralloveusuallytakenas a game.Storgeis thelovewehaveforour friends.Thesethree typesof lovecan be combinedto formsecondarylove,thatis, agape, love,Pragma andmania(Underwood &amp Rosen, 2011).

Kolbergalsoshedlighton attractionby comingup with thetheoryof cognitive developmentfrom socialmotivation.Thetheorydrawslinesfrom thedesireforan interpersonal bond.Sharedinterests in individuals strengthen the bond.Peopleareinnately attractedtoothers withcharacteristicsthattheyadmire(Prager, 2011).

SnoekandLevinger cameup with attribution theorythat viewsattractionbecause of changingprioritiesandneedsof individuals.Ashumansgrowup, theyrequirebeinglovedandcaredforbecausetheir interpersonal feelingsare developing.Humans of the oppositesexgetattractedtoeachotherbased on characteristicstheyconsiderdesirableforthemselves (Prager, 2011).

Interpersonalrelationshipsarelookedinto through severaltheories.One suchtheoryis theuncertaintyreductiontheorythat applieswhentwo strangersmeet.Theyhaveto interactto with eachother.Anothertheoryis thesocialexchangetheory.In thistheory,individualsevaluatetheir relationshipsto knowwhethertheyare beneficialto them. Thelastmethodis thedialecticalapproachthat involveschanginghowa relationshipworks.Peopledoaway relationshipsthat donot workto makeindividualsbetter(Nette, 2014).Discussion

Theaboveliteratureprovidesa groundon which a healthyhumanrelationshipdevelops.Thetheoryof lovegivesus thethree pillarsthat weshould evaluatewhenever wefeellike wehavefallenin love.Attractiontheoriesprovideinsightas to whywegetattractedto eachother.Itcan be veryhelpfulwhenweare analyzingthepeoplewegetclose.Weshould takeon boardthose whohavedesirablecharacteristicsthat cannot be detrimentalto our emotionaldevelopment.

Thetheoryof intimacyerasesanyfearsthatyoungpeoplemight havewhenever theygetintimate.Itis a naturalfeelingthat comesinvoluntarily. To be fulfilled,thehumanfeelingsgiveinto intimacy.However,theprivacy,as explainedin thetheoriesof interpersonal relationshipsshould not actas a weakening factorforanyrelationship.

Theinterpersonal theoriestakethepointhomeon howindividualsshould handleassociationsespeciallywith theoppositegender,andstrangersmust interactto knowabout eachother.During thistime,desirablecharacterscan be noted.Asocialexchangewill takeplaceifthepeoplefindthemselves not readyto relatewith ease.Changesoccurafter a carefulevaluation of therelationship.Conclusion

Interpersonalrelationshipsformthecoreof humanexistence.Aspeoplegrowup, theyexperiencedifferentfeelingsandchanges.Mostof thesefeelingscan onlybe satisfiedthrough interactingwith otherpersons.Relationshipsbetween peoplef theoppositesexshould beguidedby theabove-mentionedtheoriesandguidelines. Thetheoriesof loveprovidetheessentialelementsthat should belookedforin thatkindof a relationship.

Thetheoriesof attractionandintimacygivethereasonas to whypeoplegetattractedto eachother.Peopleshould evaluatetheir friends andacquaintancesto knowwhattheylikeabout them. Theinterpersonal relationshipstheoriesprovidesolutionsto relationshipsthat donot work.Theycan be changedordoneaway at thesametime.Allrelationshipsshould serveto makepeoplebetter.

References

Nette,W. (2014). Humanmotivation and interpersonal relationship theories: Research andApplication.Springer: New York.

Prager,J. (2011).ThePsychology of Intimacy.Guilford press: New York.

Underwood,K., and Rosen, H. (2011). Socialdevelopment: relationship in infancy, childhood and adolescence.Guilford Press: New York.

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